Find a licensed marriage and family therapist
AAMFT explains the role of marriage and family therapists and provides a place to look for qualified support.
American Association for Marriage and Family TherapyVisit the official resource ↗IRON COMPASS RESOURCE GUIDE
Use the right kind
of help for the real problem.
This page gives you a clear place to begin inside Iron Compass, then points beyond Iron Compass when a qualified professional, established organization, or crisis resource is the better next step.
START HERE
What are you
looking for today?
Choose the sentence that sounds most like your actual situation. You do not need to study the whole site first.
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My wife and I need to get on the same page.Use the free 15-minute weekly guide.
Get the meeting guide →02My attention keeps drifting away.Use the 72-hour Focus Protocol.
See Focus Protocol →03Work, pressure, and home need a steadier system.See the full Iron Compass Core curriculum.
See Iron Compass Core →STORIES AND PRACTICES
Use one practice
before you read ten ideas.
These are complete starting points, not search-engine filler. Each one names a real moment and gives you something concrete to try.
Read Chris on Substack ↗01 · PHONE HABITS
How to stop checking your phone at home
A practical setup for changing the environment and the reflex before asking willpower to do all the work.
Read the story →02 · FATHERHOODHow to be more present with your kids after work
A five- to fifteen-minute practice for joining your child’s world without bringing the whole workday with you.
Read the story →03 · FRIENDSHIPEvery man needs a third place
A real sauna conversation, and why home and work are not the only places a man needs in his life.
Read the story →04 · MARRIAGEA 15-minute weekly marriage meeting agenda
A simple way to make the week visible without turning Sunday into a boardroom or an argument.
Read the story →05 · WORK TO HOMEHow to leave work at work before you walk in the door
A short transition for putting down the mental spillover and giving the entrance your attention.
Read the story →06 · SAFE DRIVINGPut the phone away before the car moves
A practical setup for navigation, important contacts, and the downward glance behind the wheel.
Read the story →WHEN YOU NEED MORE THAN A PRACTICE
Established places
to start.
These organizations are independent of Iron Compass. They are listed because they provide professional, public, or government-backed ways to find support.
Find treatment and local services
SAMHSA provides confidential treatment locators for mental health and substance use services in the United States.
U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services AdministrationVisit the official resource ↗Find research and programs for fathers
The National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse brings together resources, research, and programs that support fathers and families.
U.S. Department of Health and Human ServicesVisit the official resource ↗READ THE RESEARCH
Ground the conversation
in what we actually know.
The evidence around phones and attention is real but not simplistic. These open-access reviews are useful starting points, and they are more honest than a dramatic claim pulled from a feed.
Smartphones and Cognition: A Review of ResearchA peer-reviewed review of the evidence around smartphone habits, attention, memory, and everyday cognitive functioning.Read at the National Library of Medicine ↗Does the Brain Drain Effect Really Exist?A meta-analysis examining whether smartphone use and even a phone’s presence can affect memory, attention, and cognitive performance.Read at the National Library of Medicine ↗
IF THE SITUATION IS URGENT
Do not try to solve a crisis with a worksheet.
Plain disclosure: Iron Compass is an independent educational project created by Chris Avera. It is not therapy, medical care, crisis care, a licensed clinical service, or an accredited program. Listing an outside resource does not imply affiliation, endorsement, or partnership.